Through a Rapist's Eyes

(No Joke)

I was organizing my email when I came across this important forwarded email.
Last night I finished watching 3 different CSI/dectective-type shows
so I guess I'm a little on edge.
Please read:


This is important information for females of ALL ages.

When this was sent to me, I was told to forward it to my lady friends, but I forwarded it to most everyone in my address book. My men friends have female friends and this information is too important to miss someone.


Please pass it along.


A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1) The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women whose clothing is easy to remove quickly . Many of them carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.

3) They also look for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse, or doing other activities while walking because they are off-guard and can be easily overpowered.

4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early morning, between 5:00 a. m. and 8:30 a. m.

5) The number one place women are abducted from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two: office parking lots/garages. Number three: public restrooms.

6) The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to another location where they don't have to worry about getting caught.

7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5 year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.

8) If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9) These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.


Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you're not worth it.


10) Several defense mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I can't believe it is so cold out here," "we're in for a bad winter." Now you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal as a target.

11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell STOP or STAY BACK ! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

13) If someone grabs you, you can't beat them with strength, but you can by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it - it hurts.

14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble and he's out of there.

15) When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

16) Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can, and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your instincts!!!


You may feel a little silly at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.


1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body If you are close enough to use it, do!

2. Learned this from a tourist guide in New Orleans . If a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you.... chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back taillights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.) DON'T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.

a. If someone is in the car with a gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your air bag will save you. If the person is in the back seat, they will get the worst of it. As soon as the car crashes, bail out and run. It is better than having them find your body in a remote location.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot or parking garage:


A.) Be aware: look around you, look into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.



B.) If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

C.) Look at the car parked on the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out.


IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
(And better paranoid than dead.)


6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs.
(Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is especially true at NIGHT!)

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times. And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP! It may get you raped or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well-educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

9. Another safety point: Someone just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch the night before last, and she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door"

The lady then said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone dropped off a baby He said they have not verified it, but have had several calls by women saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home alone at night.


Please pass this on and DO NOT open the door for a crying baby ----This should be taken seriously because the Crying Baby theory was mentioned on America's Most Wanted this past Saturday when they profiled the serial killer in Louisiana.


I'd like you to forward this to all the women you know. It may save a life. A candle is not dimmed by lighting another candle. I was going to send this to the ladies only, but decided to pass it on to the men, too.

Bathing Beauty

For the ultimate in relaxation,
nothing beats a steamy session in the tub.
By Alison McGill
Original article can be found here.

If you never dip your toes into your tub and are stuck on power showering, now is the time, you busy bride-to-be, to incorporate this easy but oh-so-luxurious ritual into your beauty routine. Proof that the world is getting hip to the benefits of the bath: on a recent hotel stay (in a room featuring a tub the size of a swimming pool), I found a note in the bathroom from the resident bath concierge inviting me to ring her to create an in-room bath experience. Of course I called, and it was a total indulgence—but one that’s easily done at home, too.

Bath Basics
What are the benefits of a good soak? Not only will your body bubble over with feelings of rest and relaxation, but with an increased feeling of wellness. Warm water improves circulation, assists in detoxification, and helps get your blood moving, re-oxygenated and flushing toxins through your kidneys. Another benefit is that the heat helps soothe tense, tired muscles, which helps the body to de-stress. Beyond the mental and physical benefits, a bath also does wonders for your skin. Annabelle Phillips, public relations spokesperson for Crabtree & Evelyn, says regular baths not only keep your skin feeling dewy fresh (especially if you infuse your bath with products containing moisturizing ingredients like aloe vera, jojoba and goat’s milk), but can actually help combat excessive dryness and skin irritation. “The simple pleasures of the bath are vast and varied,” Phillips explains. “The best thing about it—it’s a spa service you can easily create for yourself.”

Fill ’er Up!
Phillips stresses before you turn the taps, you’ve got to set the mood for your experience. “Light your favourite candle, lower the lights and arrange a few fragrant flowers beside your tub—you may even want to pluck a few petals to sprinkle in your bathwater,” she details. “Brew yourself a cup of camomile or mint tea and steep a few extra tea bags to place over your eyes.” When you’ve set the water running, be mindful of the temperature. Your bath should never be too warm—the suggested ideal temperature is somewhere between 36 C and 38 C. Keeping a cold compress handy is also recommended, as it can be applied to the forehead, back of the neck and over the heart to prevent the body from overheating. While the tub is filling, add your potion of choice—this allows it to completely dissolve and disperse in the water.Once you’ve slipped into your bath, relax and enjoy, but don’t overstay your welcome. Soak no longer than 20 minutes—staying in any longer will dehydrate skin and fatigue the body.

Recipe Card
The type of experience you walk away from the tub with depends on what you put in the water. Creating a bath customized to your needs is easily done and doesn’t require you to be an essential oils expert. In fact, most of the materials you need to create a specialized bath potion are found in the comfort of your own home. Oatmeal, milk, honey and salt are four basic ingredients you can use to create a variety of bath experiences. To add scent, toss in a few fresh herbs like mint or lavender, rose petals, or throw herbal tea bags like camomile or ginger into the water and let them steep. Below are two of Weddingbells’ favourite homemade baths—one designed to de-stress your mind, the other guaranteed to energize your wedding-weary body.

Serenity Bath
1 cup of oatmeal
Fresh lavender
Oatmeal helps calm irritated skin, while lavender helps to quiet the mind. Place oatmeal and a few sprigs of lavender in a square of muslin fabric to create a sachet. Soak for 20 minutes, leaving the sachet in the tub while you relax. Once finished, remove the sachet and allow to air dry—it can be used again for your next bath.

Sports Bath
1 cup of Epsom salts
The zest of one orange
Epsom salts help draw lactic acid towards the body’s surface to soothe muscles, while the orange zest energizes and revitalizes you. Add salts to running water and let completely dissolve. Toss in orange zest and let your bath steep for five minutes before plunging in. Soak for 10 minutes and emerge ready to run another marathon!
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Bathing Beauty
For the ultimate in relaxation, nothing beats a steamy session in the tub.
By Alison McGill
Original article can be found here.